Ted asks an important question about which guided meditation might help him recover from the impact of intense parental enmeshment, something he was subjected to when he was growing up.
Enmeshment is a family therapy term used to describe an over-involved, intrusive way of parenting, where the parents don’t know where they end and their child begins. So they tend to interfere with their kids’ autonomy, speaking for them, thinking for them, and acting for them. They are also insistent on knowing way too much about what their children are thinking, feeling and doing, and they often tell their kids way too much about themselves as well. The kids grow up confused about their own boundaries, and as adults recreate this situation with others.
Its polar opposite is the parenting style of detachment, and that has its own set of problems. Both are extremes.
Here is Ted’s question:
Hello all, and Season’s Greetings!
If you’re like me, this time of year may be when you more “formally” think about what you want to change in your life. But really, any time of year can be a good time for self-reflection, deciding what works for you, and what to finally toss, whether figuratively or quite literally!
Some of us may be contemplating a more significant shift – such as deciding whether to stay in a relationship, change careers, return to school, or move across country. Or, our primary goal may involve a habit change, such as eating better, moving more, quitting smoking, or leaving nail biting behind. As you know, contemplating any sort of change can feel stressful, but there’s a lot you can do to remain calmer and more optimistic, and achieve those goals that are important to you. (Remember, there are probably very good reasons why you’ve set such goals in the first place!) Whether your goal is large or small, the steps below can help get and keep you on track, while remaining sane during the process.
I first got your guided imagery for Chemotherapy and for Treatment Related Fatigue from my nurses at Cancer Treatment Centers of America. These became like a staple for me. I listened to them the evening before I’d go in for chemo, and again the morning after, before I’d leave for home.
I suffered from a lot of severe anxiety. This was not because of the cancer, but because I have a deep fear of vomiting, and the treatments made me very sick. I was in a constant state of terror about throwing up until the nurse gave me your recordings. They kept me calm and balanced. It was like a miracle. I began to believe I would get well and started to see past my immediate misery and toward a future where all of it was behind me. I got back my sense of hope, which saw me through the worst times.
A team of researchers from the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York tested whether hypnosis could be a useful intervention in the management of painful HIV neuropathic pain.
This is the most common nervous system disorder in HIV patients, and one that adversely affects quality of life. No interventions have been shown to be consistently effective in treating this, known as HIV-DSP (distal sensory polyneuropathy).
A devout Christian wants to develop her intuitive side more, but is leery of guided imagery and concerned it may conflict with her Christian faith. She asks Belleruth for clarification on this issue. Here is the question and the answer.
I am interested in working with your intuition guided imagery to help me develop my intuitive side, which I feel is very strong. However, I wonder if there is material on these exercises that conflicts with Christianity.
We thank you for all your loyalty, support and encouragement, and we wish you the very best in 2017!!!
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Belleruth, George, Cindy, Cheryl, Elizabeth, Maggie, David, Bruce, Reed, Walter, Jon, Mike, Steve and Todd
Given our current difficulties with addiction to prescription medication, we thought this story was very timely.
We got this note from a crackerjack internist at Johns Hopkins who often champions guided imagery as an intervention of choice for her patients Annie Umbricht MD had a patient with his heart set on a Xanax refill for his panic attacks. Her response was pretty ingenious. She writes:
"Not all my patients follow my suggestions and listen to the guided imagery I recommend, although those who do derive plenty of benefit.
Ninety consecutive patients with chronic tension-type headache (CTTH) were randomly assigned to acupuncture, relaxation training or physical training.
Researchers from Göteborg Universityin Göteborg, Sweden.compared the impact of acupuncture, relaxation training and physical training on the treatment of CCTH.
Measures of headache intensity, headache-free days and headache-free periods were taken 4 weeks before the intervention, immediately after it, and 3 and 6 months post-treatment, using a visual analogue scale and a headache diary.
We got this question from a new professional entering the mental health field who is looking for good guided imagery scripts to use with her clients. We're happy for the question, because there's quite a range of scripts out there, some of which are great and others that are mediocre or worse. So check this Q & A out, by all means:
As a new professional entering the mental health field, I would like recommendations on where to purchase resources that offer scripts for guided imagery. I am looking for scripts for inner child and trauma work that I can employ when working with my clients.
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Dear Health Journeys and BR,
I have been living with the effects of trauma over many, many years. Some of the forms it has taken is in negative thinking and poor self-image. I also have great anxiety about my safety. As a result, my life has gotten more and more rigid, narrow and constricted, despite my efforts to continually reassure myself that I am no longer at great risk.
Twenty-plus years of therapy helped me identify these issues and understand them better. Then EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) did a good job of helping me erase a suicidal tape that was running through my head. Then I found your guided imagery!
Researchers at Isfahan University of Medical Sciences in Isfahan, Iran tested the impact of a guided imagery audio tape evoking happy memories on sufferers of chronic tension headaches.
Sixty people with chronic tension headaches completed a demographic questionnaire and kept a headache diary, three weeks during treatment and one week immediately after.
Subjects were randomly assigned into one of three treatment groups: a Guided imagery (GI) with tape group (n = 20), a GI with perceived happy memory group (n = 20) and a control group (n = 20). All sixty subjects received individualized headache therapy as well (standard care).