I sent you a note not too long ago re: my weight loss of 40 lbs with the guided imagery. I was going strong, feeling good, thought I was FINALLY addressing the core of my obesity....
I was feeling better about shedding some weight... feeling safer in the world.
Then "out of the blue" comes some inappropriate behavior from a man. I could feel the switch inside me, but felt powerless to stop it.
I am back up in the weight gain and feel rather defeated, because I was sure hoping the reprogramming had done its job.
I received your first audio program when I was undergoing chemo for breast cancer. The chemo nurse gave it to me. I loved it, especially the guided imagery part. I also used your surgery tape and I breezed thru the operation. Then I bought other CDs, but found them repetitive and the imagery very similar, no matter what the topic. I myself have been using affirmations and teaching meditation for 30 years.
My understanding about affirmations is that they should be positive, which yours certainly are, and in the present, which yours are. Anyway here is my question. Why do you use the word "can" in your affirmations?
I was recently at a professional conference (I am a clinical psychologist, male, 34 years old) where I sat through several presentations. A couple were adequate and far too many were a dull rehash of things I already knew.
As is often the case, I came away thinking that I didn't learn anything and I could have done a much better job than most of the "experts" I had to listen to.
I am frustrated because I don't know how to get myself to the point where I'm not in the audience but at the podium. How do I go about getting there? You seem to have managed to do this, so I want to know how you did it. I'm hoping for an honest answer.
Actually not a question but a personal observation: I have several of your guided imagery/affirmation cds which I use often. They've been very helpful but for me, but there's too much suggestion. I guess it's the way my brain works.
When you suggest going to a place where I feel safe, etc., I can usually do that, but then I'm distracted by your various suggested alternatives and find myself mentally flitting from place to place.
Similarly when I'm in that place, your suggestions about seeing, smelling, hearing and feeling it, while helpful, get undermined by the varied scenarios you present.
Your e-newsletter was recommended highly by a dear friend of mine, who is a hypnotherapist and part of the Verve newsletter and group. Recently my partner came down with CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome).
The rapid onset of this has put me in a tailspin of questions and wondering what to do. We have been lucky enough to get acquainted with a good doctor who specifically deals with this, but have found the majority of the medical profession turning the other way, because it is not curable with antibiotics and because they cannot tell what it is or where it comes from at this point.
I have no current conscious memory of PTSD but I have the symptoms of it. (I wake up in the middle of the night screaming and I have panic attacks during the day.) I read Invisible Heroes, your book about PTSD, but every survivor had some sort of memory or recollection of their trauma. How should I go about healing if I cannot remember anything?
Not every trauma survivor in the book had a clear memory of what caused his or her posttraumatic stress symptoms, and it is not at all uncommon for memory to be clouded or missing, due to the burst of pain-killing biochemicals that flood the bloodstream during a terrifying event.
How can I keep myself from dissociating during guided imagery? I seem to float out of my body and don't know where I've been when the music stops. Is this a commonly occurring problem? Any advice?
Yes, it's pretty commonplace. Don't forget, guided imagery is a dissociative technique –strategic and deliberate, certainly, but dissociative nonetheless. So it's natural for people to float in and out of awareness, and a lot of people float so far out that they don't know where they've been. It happens to me a lot, too.
I am middle-aged and still unable to quit biting my fingernails. I have tried all sorts of things: gloves, bandaids, bitter flavored topicals, crocheting. I wonder if this is a form of self-injury or maybe pica. Only time I definitely don't bite my nails is if my hands are dirty, and, yes, I've been known to get up and go wash my hands so I can bite the nails.
I often "decide" not to do this anymore, but when the urge hits, usually while watching TV or reading, it's as if my priorities shift and I feel some kind of distracted anxiety if I don't bite them. I was eight yrs old when this started. I hated the sensation of having my nails trimmed and my sister taught me how to "trim" them myself.
I'm a psychologist specializing in PTSD. A client's husband has just received orders to go to Liberia to work on the Ebola crisis. Do you know of or could you develop any imagery that could help prevent PTSD in such health workers who will likely witness scenes of horror that may haunt them in the future? Thanks! It's okay to post this.