Which of all these strategies can be applied to phobias, such as a fear of heights?
The two simplest methods would be to either become very skilled at becoming relaxed at will or to use one of the alphabet therapies, such as Emotional Freedom Technique, to extinguish the fear.
For the first approach, you could work with any relaxation program – I think the most versatile we have is our Panic Attack CD, which offers five different relaxation approaches that you can pick and choose from, mix and match. Listening repeatedly to your favorite tracks, at times when you are not threatened or stressed, will create this ability to relax at will, merely with the help of a couple of breathing or positioning cues, at the first sign of anxiety or terror. You can then use these simple tools when you're ready to climb that mountain or cross that bridge.
My former husband left me (we were in our early-to-late fifties, he being five years younger) after almost twenty years of marriage, saying he wanted to find his "soul mate."
What he didn't say was that he had already found her about two-and-a-half years before that. They had been meeting in secret and also having phone conversations --- 90 in one year alone, that I counted on phone statements that I requested from the phone company.
He and his "friend and confidante," as he referred to her, denied a sexual affair. They said their romantic relationship started two months after he left me, which, coincidentally enough, is also when he made his "friend and confidante" the beneficiary of his life insurance policy, removing our son from it. Is that the behavior of a man who has known a woman for only two months? Well, okay, maybe an imprudent, impulsive man of poor judgment who is impelled by hormones.
I watched Belleruth today being interviewed on London TV. I was amazed. I was abused as a child, from 18 months to 22 years old. During my twenties, whenever a memory or flashback invaded my head, I used to visualize myself as an adult, rescuing me as a child. This had a profound effect on me, and also shifted the dynamics of powerlessness. Although I could not change what happened to me, I did not have to relive the horror in memories or flashbacks. In time, the flashbacks faded away and did not bother me. I am at peace with my childhood.
However, 3 years ago, I was date raped, and I am having difficulties. The memories are not there, although the feelings of terror are. I suffer terrible panic attacks, and I jump from anger and pain to apathy and not leaving the house. How do I get past memories I don't have? Please help.
Kind regards, Carina
I love your guided imagery CDs and downloads. They have been so helpful to my family in so many ways.
Now my sister is now pregnant after 4 miscarriages in 3 years. According to all the pre-natal testing, the baby is healthy, strong and free of any possible congenital abnormalities. Nevertheless, my dear sister is (understandably) "waiting for the other shoe to drop". What imagery would you recommend?
I ask this because due to prior complications, she must have a scheduled C-section. The pregnancy and childbirth CD appears to be focused on vaginal birth. I want to honor her reality and provide her with a program that will support her confidence in her body.
Terry K., Chiropractor
Hi, I wrote to you a few years ago... about your healing trauma book and my book about fibro... I have been fine for 7 years but since late Oct. this year, I've been in a lot of pain... any suggestions would be really helpful... been a very difficult and stressful time for me and not sure what to do... the pain is very different than before... cannot lift my arms, my left leg and lower back hurt, mostly... thanks.
I tried using the guided meditation in the Healing Trauma CD and had a very uncomfortable, scary, physical experience, so I shut it off. My body went into a shut down mode when it heard the music, which was staccato-y and unlike the music I was used to hearing on some of your other CDs I've heard before, which were very relaxing.
You said early on this CD that everything on it had a purpose, so I figured there was a particular reason why you had this background music. Have you heard of this reaction before from others?
Is it set up to possibly evoke some underlying response or shift if needed for the individual? Does this mean I should not use this particular CD or go through the experience it is evoking if I feel up to it?
My father has suffered from dementia for years. He no longer has clarity in his mind and does not recognize me or my brother. He lives in a special care facility where he gets good care.
The staff recently told me that he was becoming more agitated and sleepless during the night. As a result, he is extremely tired and confused during the day.
Any suggestions as to what kind of tools might help him, or will nothing reach him at this point?
Dear Ms. Naperstak [sic],
About a year ago, I was going contemplating leaving my marriage (which I eventually did) and I was very depressed. I used your guided imagery CD which was helped some. I have since had ups and downs and right now am quite down again. However, using the CD now actually brings me back to last year when I was at my lowest instead of helping me. I cannot listen to the CD without it bringing up very bad memories now. Any suggestions?
I am a therapist working with a woman who is afraid to close her eyes. The very idea creates extreme anxiety, and therefore I cannot use meditation or guided imagery with her, even though both of us believe it could be very beneficial for her. Obviously this has to do with her traumatized past, involving childhood sexual abuse. Any suggestions?
We got this thought-provoking question from somebody who'd been browsing our catalog, and objected to the way we had put our guided imagery for heartbreak, abandonment and betrayal under the category for posttraumatic stress...
Hello -- love your work! Thank you.
One small quibble. I see that in the catalog your "heartbreak" material is listed under "PTSD".
I worked the recovery effort at the World Trade Center (well -- I made coffee for the guys who worked in hell and hugged them when they left hell to come to me on hell's fringes) and know a lot of people who have truly seen the worst of the worst. Some of them - unsurprisingly - have PTSD.