Thanks for writing and for doing the work that you do. I completely relate to what you're saying, and agree that PTSD is not Heartbreak. I agree that the word "PTSD" and “trauma” gets over-used, wrongly used, and tossed around pretty cavalierly by a lot of people.
I don't blame your guy for being furious. (On the other hand, the woman who got pinched may have been a rape survivor who got sneaked up on from behind in a similar way earlier, in which case a mere pinch could get a whole, true-blue biochemical cascade reaction going all over again, and that would indeed be PTS.)
You make a good point about where the Heartbreak CD belongs. More often than not, the loss of a romantic relationship doesn't add up to posttraumatic stress. It can be sad, upsetting, disappointing, scary, depressing, lonely, infuriating, embarrassing, devastating and demeaning, but even all that doesn’t add up to posttraumatic stress. Just misery.
Posttraumatic stress, as I'm sure you know, has a very specific definition that relates to the three clusters of symptoms that come with it:
- re-experiencing (flashbacks, nightmares, intrusive thoughts)
- avoidance/numbness (isolation, flat affect, emotional disconnectedness)
- hyper-arousal (flashes of anger/fury and fear/terror)
You can have PTS - with all three clusters - from a near-miss auto accident, a hurricane, domestic violence, a sudden grievous loss, an ICU stay, combat, captivity or being a first responder, journalist or recovery worker at a horror site like Ground Zero. Even though what generates the symptoms might be vastly different events, the symptoms of PTS are more or less the same, give or take.
But I do think that very often - almost always, I would say - a component of PTS is a broken heart.
Sometimes that's in the very concrete sense of a soldier downrange being told his wife has left him or his best friend has just been killed (sometimes before his eyes).
Sometimes it's other kinds of wrenching, disturbing losses: the loss of a child, the death of an idealized notion of the abuser who was your parent or your spouse, the loss of your legs in an accident.
Sometimes the heartbreak is for your own lost innocence and ability to take a certain sense of safety or human decency for granted. Always with PTS there's a sense of being separated from the rest of the so-called 'normal' world by the extreme pain, anguish, terror, violence or horror you've experienced or seen - that's a kind of heartbreak too.
The imagery on the Heartbreak audio does address this and helps the listener source their own strength in a different way than the imagery on the PTS program, and for that reason, it's a good complement to it.
So for that reason, I do think it belongs under PTS, but agree with you that it shouldn't be there exclusively. It should also be under Grief and Relationships, too.
Thanks for writing and thank you for the work that you do. I know you've no doubt heard some horrific stories that have stuck in your head in disturbing, unwelcome ways. It comes with the territory - hearing those stories is no day at the beach. That supportive, therapeutic role can be traumatizing and for sure it can break your heart, many times over.
Take good care and all best wishes,