What Resources Can Help with Deeply Rooted, Pervasive Shame?
A woman getting therapy from an EMDR specialist, already working extensively with guided imagery, asks what else she can do...
Which of your CDs would best address deeply rooted shame? I am working closely with a therapist and am getting close to doing EMDR. I have your Anger and Forgiveness, Self-Confidence, Successful Relationships and just ordered the PTSD one, Healing Trauma.
Thank you so much for the work you do. Best Regards, Marie
I think in terms of resources, you’ve really done your homework (hats off!), and you’ve already got your bases covered. Just keep on doing what you’re doing. When you’re ready, the EMDR with your therapist should be a big help. (You may also want to supplement it with Mary Sise’s excellent DVD for Thought Field Therapy/ Emotional Freedom Technique (TFT, EFT) (please link & show cover) which also would help with making a good dent on this.)
Of all the guided imagery you’ve chosen, I suspect that the one that will have the biggest impact on shame will be the one you just got: Healing Trauma. It’s pretty intense, so it’s good you’ve been working with the others first. (And you don’t have to have an official diagnosis of posttraumatic stress for this imagery to help you with this.)
And if this shame has a strong body-based component to it, some gentle energy work or trigger point work with an experienced massotherapist or body worker, in conjunction with your therapy, could be invaluable in accelerating your progress. Just make sure you get a knowledgeable referral and the practitioner knows what she or he is doing!
One more thing: if you’re currently involved in a relationship that perpetuates this shame-based attitude toward yourself, you may want to take a second look at that - but I’m sure you’ve got that covered with your therapist.
Psychotherapist, author and guided imagery pioneer Belleruth Naparstek is the creator of the popular Health Journeys guided imagery audio series. Her latest book on imagery and posttraumatic stress, Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal (Bantam Dell), won the Spirituality & Health Top 50 Books Award