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Woman Forgives Dying Mother-In-Law, Wonders How She Did It…

01 Mar
Question: I have been using your tapes for a few years, starting with the ones for Depression, Forgiveness, Sleeping and Weight Loss.  My counselor recommended them when I was having difficulty with depression.

I really had a big problem with my mother-in-law and was working on forgiveness. She had been sick for several months, and in November 2008 my husband told me that she only had a short while to live.  In my thoughts, I really felt relieved, but as the days went on, I was still unsettled. I knew that there was something else that I was feeling and couldn't pinpoint what was happening.

Then one day I had the thought that I needed to go see her, but didn't know how to handle it. The phone rang a few days later and it was the hospital wanting to talk with my husband. I told them he was working and asked if I could help. They told me that his Mom was asking for him, she was alone in the hospital and wanted someone to be with her.  I told them that I would try and get hold of him.

After hanging up, I knew that was my chance to go to her and maybe settle what differences we had.  I entered her room and asked if there was anything that I could do for her.  She was not very happy with me, and I understood, with her knowing that she only had a short time in this life. I stayed for a while, and we finally did get into a few good conversations, and she did tell me that she loved me and that she was very sorry about the past.

Before I left I asked if I could give her a kiss and come back to see her. She told me yes. We did get to spend time together before she passed away a few weeks later.

Since that experience, I have felt so different, and there are no anger feelings about her or anyone.  My body feels so relieved of tension. Could this possibly be results of using your tapes? I use them mostly every night and sometimes in the early morning.

Answer: 

Dear CJ,

It’s possible that the Anger & Forgiveness CD helped to make this happen.  Certainly, we’ve heard about the cumulative effect it can have after repeated use, when suddenly the impulse to offer genuine forgiveness just sneaks up on a person, even though in the past, the whole idea was pretty inconceivable.

Then again, it just might be because of your courage and generous heart!  Pretty impressive, if you ask me.
 
It’s true that once this kind of forgiveness is achieved, there’s a lightness of being and a great sense of relief, gratitude and wholeness.  But it can’t be faked.  That lightness can only come from the real thing.  Thanks for a beautiful story.
 

Belleruth Naparstek

Psychotherapist, author and guided imagery pioneer Belleruth Naparstek is the creator of the popular Health Journeys guided imagery audio series. Her latest book on imagery and posttraumatic stress, Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal (Bantam Dell), won the Spirituality & Health Top 50 Books Award